Recently I was talking to an emerging leader who asked what tips I might have to control self-doubts, or that little voice in all of us that rears its ugly head on occasion telling us we’re not smart enough, or we have no idea what we’re doing. Even the most seasoned leaders have to tame those thoughts and use various techniques to address them. Here are some ideas for you to consider.
· We all know the golden rule…do unto others as they would do to you… I’d have you to consider changing it a bit and do to YOURSELF what you’d do for others…In other words; most times we’re too hard on ourselves. What would you say or do to help a struggling employee? You’d be empathetic, resourceful, a support to get that top performer back on track…so do to yourself what it is you’d do for others.
· When things aren’t going well…ask yourself what it is you’re LEARNING from the experience. Don’t most people, if not all, agree that we LEARN more from our failures than our successes? View these times of self-doubt as a time to embrace the thought learning and growing. Success is a journey…not a destination…enjoy the trip.
· Be careful not to OVER THINK an issue. I once saw a poster which read, “Over thinking is simply the art of creating problems which don’t exist. “
· Sometimes we CAN’T see the forest for the trees. Learn to walk away from an issue for some time. Clear your head, take a walk, go to that yoga class you’ve been thinking about, get some fresh air, think outside the box, have fun with exploring CRAZY ideas, play the “what if” game…and remember…NOTHING is impossible!
· Henry Ford once said, “If you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”
Be good to yourself…